Causes of internet dating
My family story also serves as a brief history of romance. But they’re supplanting the role of matchmaker once held by friends and family.
“I think I got about 100 media requests over the weekend,” he told me ruefully on the phone when I called him on Monday.
This is the age of DIY-everything, in which individuals are charged with the full-service construction of their careers, lives, faiths, and public identities.
When in the 1840s the Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard called anxiety “the dizziness of freedom,” he wasn’t slamming the door on modernity so much as foreseeing its existential contradiction: All the forces of maximal freedom are also forces of anxiety, because anybody who feels obligated to select the ingredients of a perfect life from an infinite menu of options may feel lost in the infinitude. Our friends and moms were underserving us.”Historically, the “underserving” was most severe for single gay people.
In sociology-speak, our relationships were “mediated.” In human-speak, your wingman was your dad.
Derek Thompson: The future of the city is childless But dating has changed more in the past two decades than in the previous 2,000 years, thanks to the explosion of matchmaking sites such as Tinder, OKCupid, and Bumble.