Dating one race at a time
But just because I see my future with a black man, doesn’t mean I’m closing the door on other races. If I fall in love with a white man does that mean I just call it quits and continue my search for a black man that will love me? Yet when I asked some people about their racial dating preference, they say they are into one race and one race only. When someone finds a person from their “unpreferred” races to be attractive, they often say, “Even I think they’re attractive.” For some reason, they don’t find this way of thinking to be racist. According to sociologist Zuleyka Zevallos, people assume that racism has to be overt, such as refusing service because of someone’s skin color or shouting a racial slur at someone.Thoughts of wanting to change my appearance, such as straightening my hair, began swirling through my head.I didn’t have to worry about kids touching my hair and being asked if I liked fried chicken at my old school. But I had to get used to the silly questions and the touching because I stayed there until graduation.Zevallos believes that we have been conditioned to favor some ethnicities and races over others.She said comments such as “you’re pretty for a black girl” show that many people think you need some semblance of European features in order to be attractive.